wilkes

Doesn't sound like you were all that enthusiastic to be in a relationship to start with. After a fair amount of girlfriends and an ex wife, I adopted a committed bachelor's life. Takes a bit to get used to, but I've honestly never been happier. Fishing, hunting, hobbies, ball games, naps and mismatched socks, all with no one to judge, gripe or try to "fix" me.

The 3 FFFs Live by it

another thought...honestly, if you have to ask relationship questions on gowilkes...

that's a sign of...maybe I shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with, syndrome!

to the OP...i spoke to your girlfriend...she wrote a poem for you that she asked me to share with you...

i want a woman who will always be there for me...

Riversong has it down to an art. She's been there done that I can tell. I feel the same way. If you can't answer all those questions after 7 months of dating and your feeling insecure about her feelings for you be a man and step up to the plate. Put in some effort to find these things out and show her you care. Don't let her do all the leg work because if you won't appreciate what she does then im sure someone eles will. Woman like to be romanced, Doesn't have to involve money...It's the little things that get to a womans heart. Leave the little notes for her, bring her something like her fav. candy or wine just because. Put some rose pedd. in a tub of water and have candles lit so she can just relax and remember how it felt when you first got together....ok maybe that's a little drastic...but I like it wink. You sound like a caring person and I wish you the best. Also if your truly in love with her....tell her more often and do let her know she's the missing piece....the one you don't want to be without....That's what woman need to know and feel. Woman are emotional and men are visual. So touch her heart, make her laugh out loud, and be attentive, loving, respectful,and never cheat, and put in just as much effort as she does and the girl will be yours forever....

Sounds like you don't have a job or money and she is hunting greener pastures

Stop playing games. Just ask the girl what's going on. I'd guess if she's had to put all the effort in, she's tired of it and ready to see if you'll do it. Ask her.

You have not answered the simple question of "Are you in love with her?" When you wake up in the morning, is your first thought," How is she doing?" "I will do anything to make her happy, and what can I do today to make her life better?" If something happens is she the one you are dying to tell first? Is she your best friend? How often do you give her presents? How often do you compliment her about things you admire? Do you often think, "She deserves someone so much better than I am, and I have no idea how I got so lucky for her to care about me?"

Change deodorant after a good bath, brush your teeth, clean up, and if that doesn't work, go find yourself another. Of course, she may just be going through the pause that does not refresh.

I don't like to fight, but my best friend complained to me one time that she and her boyfriend at the time never fought...and she was so bored. So, then she started little tiffs just to get a rise out of him and then she wasn't quite bored with him any more. They're broke up now though, but some women like to see their men get a little riled up time to time.

Maybe she was taking a bit of time re-evaluating how she felt about you and the relationship and where she wanted it to go.

In my case, I had lost interest. Just ask her, hopefully she will be honest.

Why not ask her?

I don't see how it could be she lost interest....we never fight, we have a great time when we are together, granted she makes all the plans and comes to see me since she is in an apartment complex and I am out to myself. She and I even discussed a future down the road when things were possible after her son gets done with college so this is the first time she's backed away.

Well, I do see a tad problem. In your last post, you were generalizing women. Every woman is different. Don't try to overthink or overdo yourself. Do be attentive to her and realize she is her own woman. Both of you are in the relationship and just as she must adjust to you, you must adjust to her. In your particular situation though, she's either trying to push you away or wanting you to chase. Given you said she acts fine when you do talk it seems she's just wanting the chase. Until she directly tells you to butt off, just keep doing your best. Good luck.

She's either lost interest or found another.

Ok Ladies thank you....I was just stating I was happy and content....thought maybe i needed some advice to see if i need to step up my game or play this off and wait for her to make all the moves. Just confusing. I guess i was use to her making all the plans and effort to see me that it just threw me off a little bit. It's not that i don't make an effort, I drive for a living. I could use some advice on this because I think she thought I was being smothered so she's backing off..but i wasn't I was just like i said happy and content with how things were going. Thanks for the replys though. Alot of times men in general aren't as attentive or show as much affection as we should and I don't really know what a woman wants, ya'll are so confusing sometimes...If you ladies were doing this...would it be a sign that your trying to get your man to step up and text and call you more and notice you more or....just trying to back off a bit....?

No she wont be honest you will just look weak and desperate just pull back twice as much as she does and she will come runing back and if she doesnt she was leaving anyway