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get all you can get from that 2 dollar ho i did mine and came out with a nice home and money then go after the other lover and get some more money its been over a decade and im still living large have fun !

Westend, The main thing is that you never cheat again and you learned an important lesson in life...a hard one but so important. As for a female who went through this with a few ex's I know how hard it is to try and trust someone completely after that. It plays in our minds over and over....but I refuse to remarry ever again unless I can 100% give my trust to the person I'm with. Otherwise....it wouldn't be fair. So I thought it was nice for you to show that someone who had it all...lost it all over cheating and realized it, who can man up and say hey I did this...and it was my fault...Thanks for the post.....Maybe more people will think of the outcome of their actions after reading it.

"Cheating back", simply, vindicates their mistake.

No.

bosox05 (view profile)
Posted 6:57 pm, 03/03/2015
How about just cheating back???

Oh sure...emulate the very qualities and behaviors that make the cheater so despicable.

I'm better than that.

Your lucky humper I wish I could say the same. The tables are turned for me. I got a royal you know what in life when I did all of the right things. Even my ex says I was a good husband. If I had caused it to happen I could live with that. Being a victim is the worst feeling. Your life being turned upside down and you are powerless to stop it. My ex left me and our 2 children now she is living with someone and I've been alone over a year. I look up and ask what the **** did I do to deserve this? This is why I no longer deal with God. I believe in him and I believe he does not like me because of what happened. If this is his idea of taking care of his children then I don't need his help. I'm not posting any more on this thread because it ticks me off.

OP......I feel your pain and im sorry. I was cheated on with a mutual friend and i decided to stay bc we hada child. I couldnt stand the thought of joint custody (not seeing my child) every other week or wk end.
Of course the creep says it wont happen again, please stay with me and we dont.want to put our child thru all if it!!!! So dummy me stayed bc of my child (age 9). It was sooooo hard, nothing was the same, you feel different with the cheater, the trust is over completely!!! I was never happy after that. So 7 yrs later he done it AGAIN and i got out (child was 16). Thats been 7 yrs ago. He married the one he chested on me with and that lasted less than 2 yrs. HAha. LOL. Now he is alone!!!
Im now married and treated like a queen!!!
Most important my child is grown and doing great!!!
MY POINT......CHANCES ARE IT WILL HAPPEN AGAIN!!
Its tough but u can make it with out a jack a..

I went through the same thing right down to the years. People say try to work it out and so on. The truth is you will never get over it. You will never look at this person the same. When you marry the two of you have a clean slate regardless of what you did before your vowels. In a way you two are virgins and there is a purity to your union. When this purity is gone by them cheating you will never get that back. I know couples that worked it out but they will tell you it's never the same if they are honest about it. It hurts like **** I know. I've been divorced 5 years and it still hurts. I thought I was over my exwife but for some reason the past few months I have felt the way I did during the first year. You feel betrayed and disgusted with them and with yourself. You did everything right just to be kicked in the head. I know what you are feeling and I'm sorry. Walk away they will do it again. They are not sorry they did it. They are sorry they got caught. I get mad just posting this. To **** with them.

Yea....he wasn't getting a crack wh*re at home...

Cheating back? Just to get revenge? Think about the people who would be USED in this project.

bosox05 (view profile)
Posted 6:57 pm, 03/03/2015
How about just cheating back???

Even though it sounds like a great idea , in my opinion two wrong's don't make a right ....its hard enough to deal with the fact you was cheated on but then to add doing the same act in revenge makes it in my opinion that much harder to deal with and it just creates more of a tangled web. All I can say is do what you feel best to do but think things through before you act on emotion.

How about just cheating back???

mommo, I agree with you about the commitment being on both ends. However, I hope you aren't saying that someone should be guilted into staying in a marriage when their spouse has had an affair. Reminding them of the "for better or for worse" addage sometimes confuses an already confused, dysfunctional relationship.

I disagree also. Chendo has an excellent chance at a career in comedy, lol. Also, marriage is a commitment on both ends. Even if someone makes a mistake even a bad one both should attempt to salvage if possible. For better or for worse....

on the other hand...YOUR POST WAS FUNNY AS HEILL!

Kafer: You have good advice. However, I disagree about the possibility of getting back together in 10 years. That seems to encourage one into holding on to hope of a reconciliation. I think that once the op makes a decision, it should be viewed as permanent and he/she should live as such.

Chendo....Saturday Night Live just called...Said you failed the first casting. So no comedy career for you.

"take it on the chin?"...

It has been said that a stiff tool hath no conscience. It is hurtful to the other partner. I don't know if it can be repaired? Probably not. You cannot be perceived as weak and take it on the chin. You must express how bad it hurts but not let it control your life. Remember, you were independent 10 plus years ago and you can be independent again. Sometimes we rely too much on others and in that reliance lose ourselves. Yes, it will hurt for a while but we get over those hurts and move along. Don't waste time and worry. Hey...if you two are still single ten years from now, you might work out something again. Never say never. But don't waste time waiting on someone to reform. In the mean time, take care of your self and don't try and figure out where you went wrong because you didn't go wrong . Don't invest too much of yourself in another person cause it hurts when they don't live up to your standards.

Dentist-"Chendo, this is going to hurt."

"I told my wife the truth. I told her I was seeing a psychiatrist. Then she told me the truth: that she was seeing a psychiatrist, two plumbers, and a bartender."
― Rodney Dangerfield

"Statistically speaking, there is a 65 percent chance that the love of your life is having an affair. Be very suspicious."
― Scott ****ers, You Are Worthless: Depressing Nuggets of Wisdom Sure to Ruin Your Day

"Show me a beautiful woman....and I'll show you a man that is tired of ****ing her."
--- Feel Burger